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Coaching with CBT Techniques

1.Benefits and Features

2.Who is the Service for?

3.Combining Coaching & CBT

4.About David Bonham-Carter

5.Life Coaching Sessions

6.Cient Testimonials

7.Coaching Fees

 

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I have now completed work on my latest book Introducing Assertiveness: A Practical Guide published worldwide by Icon Books in 2013. This has freed me up some time to concentrate on providing coaching for individuals.

Consequently, I am currently giving a special offer of 20% off my usual fees for coaching sessions. The offer is available for online purchase only since this reduces the administration for me. The coaching sessions can be provided by telephone coaching or face to face if you live local to Bristol, UK.

Anyone taking advantage of the offer can receive coaching sessions incorporating CBT techniques at the offer price below:

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Note: The offer is subject to availability as I only have a limited number of spaces available for coaching. Once you have made your purchase I will email you to arrange a time for the coaching session. If all coaching spaces have already been taken or for any other reason we are unable to agree a time then you will be given a full refund for your payment.

Details of the Coaching Service I Offer are given below:

Life Coaching with CBT Techniques

* Become More Assertive *
* Deal with Difficult Emotions *
* Build a Positive Future *
* Relieve Anxiety & Stress *
* Increase Self Esteem & Confidence *
* Telephone Coaching Service - UK & international *

Life Coaching with CBT Techniques - Introduction

Life coaching with CBT techniques is provided by experienced life coach David Bonham-Carter and has the following advantages:

Life Coaching with CBT Techniques
- How They Combine

The coaching service that David offers synthesises the balanced thinking techniques of CBT with the practical techniques of life coaching for exploring options, deciding on goals to pursue and making positive choices and action plans. David's overarching approach is as a life coach but the specific techniques he practises include those of CBT because he has found these to be efffective and they are validated by research evidence.

The CBT techniques that David uses in coaching fit very well with the practical nature of life coaching as described above, because despite the word 'therapy' being in its name, CBT is in many respects very different from traditional psychoanalytical methods of therapy or counselling - it does not involve you in having to undergo psychoanalysis and indeed both of its founders, Albert Ellis and Aaron Beck, formulated their ideas because of disenchantment with aspects of the psychoanalytical approach.

Unlike much psychoanalysis, CBT techniques are practical by nature and do not involve attributing symbolic meaning to dreams, words or actions. They involve the here and now! People usually follow a CBT programme for a relatively short number of coaching sessions, not for an indefinite and lengthy period which traditionally used to be the case in counselling or psychotherapy and still is in some instances!

The aim of CBT and other coaching models is to help you help yourself.

In addition to CBT techniques David has also received training in the following coaching models and if appropriate can incorporate them into the coaching service that he provides:

What is Life Coaching?

There is no agreed definition of life coaching. However, coaching often contains the following features:

Extra Value from CBT

The life coaching service provided by life coach David Bonham-Carter includes the extra element of coaching with CBT techniques which enables additional support to help you deal with mental and emotional barriers that get in the way of dealing effectively with stresses, anxieties and obstacles.

What is CBT?

CBT, otherwise known as cognitive behavioural therapy, or cognitive behavioural coaching, evolved from the ideas of Albert Ellis (the founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) and Aaron Beck (the founder of Cognitive Therapy).

There is actually no one thing which constitutes CBT and practitioners of CBT may differ in their preference for individual techniques within the CBT umbrella. Usually, however, coaches or counsellors who use CBT techniques share the following basic elements in their approach which are common to most CBT practitioners:

What CBT Can Help With

CBT provides a set of techniques used by counsellors and life coaches which are particularly effective in helping people who are experiencing:

It is also commonly recommended as a successful method for helping people suffering from depression or other low mental states and research evidence supports its use as an effective tool in helping with such issues (this can be in conjunction with medical support and you are advised to contact your GP if you think you may be experiencing depression).

At the time of writing, the National Health Service in the UK has embarked on a campaign to recruit and train many more practitioners of 'psychological therapies' of which the most well known is CBT which is viewed as being amongst the most effective ways of dealing with anxiety and depression. This is an example of the esteem in which CBT techniques and approaches are held amongst health and social care organisations and professionals.

Life Coaching with CBT Techniques Compared to Counselling

David Bonham-Carter is a life coach who specialises working with people suffering from stress, anxiety, low self esteem or related difficulties, so there is an element of overlap with counsellors in the client group that he coaches. Nonetheless there are significant differences between the service that he offers and that offered by counsellors or psychotherapists. In fact a number of clients have approached David after having previously had counselling who did not find the previous counselling to be particularly effective but then found coaching with David both constructive and productive.

Traditional counselling delves at length into a person's past and comes up with explanations of why a person acts in a certain way often to fit preconceived theoretical assumptions of the counselling model. By contrast:

Coaching Topics that Can be Covered for You

David can provide coaching to cover most of the usual areas that people seek life coaching assistance for, such as career development or relationship issues. However his primary expertise and where CBT techniques are most effective is around issues where anxieties, stresses, fears or mental blocks are inhibiting you from making effective change.

If you find yourself commonly thinking self critical thoughts, comparing yourself to others or if you think that you are sometimes your own worst enemy, it is likely that you will would benefit from the specialist life coaching service with CBT techniques that David offers.

Dealing with Negative Thoughts and Feelings

If you experience negative thoughts or anxieties you are not alone, but you may have more choice over the way that you deal with those thoughts and feelings than you recognise.

Most people have periods of their life or specific situations, circumstances or relationships in which they feel stressed or have difficulty in achieving their full potential or expressing themselves assertively.

In such situations you can find that you:

Alternatively, you may find that you are

The combination of life coaching techniques with specific CBT techniques to deal with problematic thoughts processes is ideal for this kind of situation where negative thoughts are creating stumbling blocks for you in achieving your goals.

Self Esteem and Confidence

Self Esteem is part of our self image which develops during childhood and is a combination of our own natural personality features together with the messages and influences we receive from those around us about how we should act and feel about ourselves.

Coaching using CBT techniques is particularly effective in this area because it can help you in a supportive way to examing how your thought processes and negative self perceptions are impacting on the rest of your life and then give you techniques and ideas to create a more positive self image and to counter negative thoughts.

Assertiveness

Assertiveness nvolves communicating effectively by explaining clearly to others what your needs and wishes are in a reasonable way without being overly aggressive.

Often what gets in the way of being assertive is a worry about what the consequences will be - What will other people think of me? How will they react? Am I being selfish? are the sort of thoughts that might inhibit you from communicating in an effective assertive way.

The focus of CBT on helping you to examine and change thought processes which are making it difficult for you to communicate effectively can be extremely useful in giving you the confidence and ability to start expressing your needs and wishes in a clear and reasonable way.

Stress

Stress can be caused by a variety of factors, relating to for example:

Coaching can help you to deal with stress in effective ways by:

Anxiety

Everyone get anxious at some time or another, but if anxiety is dominating your life or certain aspects of it such as work or relationship, then coaching can be helpful to enable you to look at your anxieties in a calmer, more reasonable way, to improve your life balance and to help you meet your full potential.

Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is a condition in which you experience high levels of anxiety about being criticised or judged in a negative way by others which leads you to having high levels of fear about your ability to cope in social situations. Surveys have suggested that as many as 10% of people may suffer from the condition, although it was not commonly recognised as a form of anxiety disorder until the 1980s.

It is unlikely that you will find a magic bullet solution which 'cures' your social anxiety at one stroke, but CBT techniques and encouragement from a life coach such as myself who is familiar with this area can help you devise and implement strategies in a sensible step by step way which will help you to grow in confidence in your ability to deal with social situations and address underlying self esteem issues.

Performance Anxiety

Performance anxiety or presentation anxiety can lead you to panic at the thought of having to take part in public speaking or give a performance or make a presentation at work or in another environment.

CBT can help you to work through the psychological fears that you are struggling with and learning relaxation techniques through coaching can provide you with additional helpful tools.

Panic Attacks

A panic attack is an intense short period of anxiety without an obvious explanation such as an external threat or a medical reason.

The main trigger in panic attacks is often actually the fear that you are going to have a panic attack. Coaching using CBT techniques, offers ways of identifying the thinking patterns that are reinforcing this belief and causing you to panic, and then retraining yourself to cope with the irrational fear of panicking, so that you can begin to take control of the situation, to enable you to Increase your ability to cope with panic attacks if they happen and to lessen your fears of them.

Jealousy

Amongst relationship issues, the one that David is most often asked to help with is jealousy. Jealousy in a relationship is one of the most destabilising of emotions. It usually indicates insecurity about a relationship involving suspicion and often involves a misguided attempt to reach certainty about whether the person you are in a relationship with is betraying your trust - it may not be possible to reach absolute certainty about this in a relationship, in which case the desire to know may simply lead to greater anxiety and frustration.

The cognitive behavioural techniques that David uses in his coaching sessions encourage you to take control of your jealousy rather than letting it take control of you. Coupled with coaching techniques to help build self esteem and confidence where relevant, this kind of practical coaching provides a useful practical way of learning how to prevent jealousy ruining your relationship or causing you anxiety.

Changing a Habit

If you are having difficulty breaking a habit, whether that is smoking or drinking too much alcohol or something more personal such as your behaviour in relationships or the way that you express anger, then motivational interviewing is a coaching model that can be particularly helpful.

Often people think that making changes is purely a matter of willpower. This is not the case and in David's coaching if you want help in beaking a habit and feel crestfallen that you have tried before and not managed it, then he can explain to you a model of change described in motivational interviewing coaching that many people find to be more practical. This can help to prevent you getting too down on yourself if you are find it hard to make changes and it can support you in sustaining motivation.

Diet and Coaching

Diet may be relevant to coaching in two ways.

Firstly, parts of your diet may be contributing to your problems - for example, caffeine or alcohol use can make mood swings and anxiety worse. Coaching can help to highlight some of these issues for you if they are relevant.

Secondly, if you have a weight problem part which you are having difficulty in dealing with because of underlying emotional, self esteem or stress related issues, CBT techniques may be relevant to helping you to manage some of the feelings and impulse eating habits that you are experiencing.Telephone coaching can help in a planned way to deal with any underlying emotional issues and support your efforts to maintain a reasonable healthy weight.

Living a Balanced, Purposeful and Satisfying Life

Where appropriate in coaching sessions, David can also teach or give information about:

David's Coaching Expertise

David has worked successfully for many years in helping clients to learn and implement powerful personal and professional change and overcome difficulties in their life. His background prior to becoming a professional life coach was as a qualified social worker in the UK where he gained practical experience of helping people achieve changes in the most difficult of situations and received training in a numnber of techniques including those highlighted on this page, such as CBT, Motivational Interviewing, Brief Solution Focused Therapy and Transactional Analysis.

David has written specialist life coaching articles for the Association for Coaching and other sources of coaching expertise and information, on change management, stress control, relationship coaching and career issues and he has been invited onto BBC radio and Sky TV to give advice on coaching issues. David is also the author of Introducing Self-Esteem - A Practical Guide published by Icon Books (2012) in their Practical Guide Series which provides a practical introduction for anyone interested in using CBT and life coaching techniques to help build self esteem. His follow-up book Introducing Assertiveness - A Practical Guide has also been published by Icon Books (2013).

David has helped numerous people to make effective, positive change in their lives, through learning specialist coaching and CBT techniques.

The techniques are practical and straightforward and do not involve painful analysis of your past. They are designed to be helpful, constructive and supportive.

David is a UK life coach and business coach but the medium of coaching on the telephone allows him to provide his coaching service throughout the UK and worldwide.

Telephone Coaching in the UK & Worldwide

The medium of telephone coaching enables David to provide a service for people across the UK and internationally.

He has coached clients from London, Bristol, Bath, Birmingham, Brighton, Cheshire, Edinburgh, Leeds, Liverpool, Manchester, Oxford, Surrey, Sussex, Kent, Hertfordshire, South Gloucestershire, Wales... all over the UK.

Internationally David has coached clients from the U.S.A., Europe, France, Spain, Germany, Switzerland, Japan, Australia, Singapore, India and Africa. Examples of a couple of testimonials from clients outside the UK can be seen at International Coaching.

Distance is not a barrier to telephone coaching. Sessions are confidential, professional, effective and time-efficient.

Face to Face Coaching Sessions in Bristol

If you live in or near the Bristol area and would like face to face coaching sessions then these are available as an alternative to telephone coaching sessions at your option.

How Do Coaching Sessions Work?

The aim of the coaching sessions is to assist you in making a practicable and often enjoyable movement to what and where you want to be. For each coaching session David will arrange a mutually convenient time with you, for you to call him for the coaching session. Sessions can start at any time between 9.30am and 6.30pm (UK time) on a weekday, subject to availability.

The Initial Coaching Session

The initial coaching session will give you the opportunity to talk through the issues that are of concern to you. Before the initial coaching session David supplies you by email with a short questionnaire to fill out to give information and details about where you want help or ideas and that questionnaire can then be used as the starting point for the discussion in the initial coaching session.

Coaching sessions will look at your individual needs and wishes and aim to help you to come up with and implement strategies to help you progress with the issues that are most important to you.

The content of each session is tailored to your particular requirements. It will vary depending on whether you are looking for help in relationships, work, business, or personal development issues.

Each session will conclude with David agreeing with you suggested steps for you to try out in relation to your concerns be they self esteem, anxiety, stress, work, relationship or other matters.

David will email a project plan to you after the session setting out the agreed steps and the outcomes you are aiming for.

Flexibility

The frequency of coaching sessions can be adjusted to suit your individual circumstances.

You can arrange sessions to be weekly, fortnightly, monthly or on an individual basis - whatever seems best for your needs.

What is Included in Coaching Sessions?

The coaching service provided for you will include the following:

What Evidence is there that act Life Coaching Sessions incorporating CBT Techniques Work?

The specialist life coaching service with CBT techniques that David offers is based on research into the methods and strategies that are most helpful for people to make positive and real change. He also asks clients to evaluate their progress in terms of increased satisfaction levels after a short period of coaching compared with satisfaction levels before the coaching.

Some of the results achieved for clients in terms of increased satisfaction levels include:

Fast Track Coaching

If you are keen to start your coaching as soon as possible David will endeavour to offer you a coaching sesssion appointment within 2 working days where at all possible (Please call 0117 230 3119 if this is important for you to confirm availability).

Frequently Asked Questions about the Life Coaching Service incorporating CBT Techniques

What can I expect to be covered in a Programme of Life Coaching Sessions?

You can expect the following elements to be provided in a life coaching programme:

What is David Bonham-Carter's professional background and experience?

The coaching sessions are provided by experienced life coach David Bonham-Carter. David is also a recognised author on self-help topics and practical life coaching techniques, having written the books "Self-Esteem: A Practical Guide" (published by Icon Books in 2012), its sequel "Assertiveness: A Practical Guide" (to be published by Icon Books in 2013) as well as articles for the Association for Coaching and other helping organisations. David has helped hundreds of life coaching clients to make successful changes in their lives and deal with problems effectively. Prior to becoming a life coach he worked as a qualified social worker helping the most vulnerable people in society to manage difficulties and achieve personal goals.

How can Life Coaching Sessions Help Me?

Life coaching sessions work by focusing on those aspects of your behaviour or thought patterns that are most problematic for you and identifying ways in which you can adjust them or deal with them to help you progress in the areas where you want change. A simple example of a technique that might be used in coaching sessions to help you is the famous ABC Model invented by Albert Elllis (one of the founders of cognitive behavioural therapy ("CBT")). Using this model you might be asked in a coaching session (or in a 'homework' exercises following a coaching session) to reflect on an issue that you find is a repeated problem for you in the following way:

  1. Describe what the typical situation is in which the problem arises
  2. Note down your thoughts, beliefs and feelings which the situation triggers
  3. Describe how you then typically act.
  4. Make a note of the consequences of these actions and how you then feel.

In coaching David will then explore in depth with you what are your options at each stage for breaking the negative cycle. He will discuss with you:

You will be encouraged to practise any potentially helpful approaches outside of coaching sessions and then report back at the next coaching session. David will then help you to build on what you've done well and adjust anything that needs changing or improving.

How Many Life Coaching Sessions will I need?

Most people have in all 4-12 coaching sessions. The exact number will vary according to individual need.

What Type of Life Issues are the Life Coaching Sessions appropriate for?

David's coaching sessions are helpful for most of the usual areas that people seek life coaching assistance for, such as career development or relationship issues. His greatest expertise and where CBT techniques in particular are most effective is around issues where anxieties, stresses, fears or mental blocks are inhibiting you from making effective change. Examples of areas that can be covered in coaching sessions are:

Will I become Dependent on Coaching?

The aim of CBT and the other coaching models used in David's coaching sessions is to help you to help yourself not for you to become dependent on the life coach or on the coaching sessions. In a short number of coaching sessions you are taught techniques that you can use for yourself.

What Does a Programme of coaching Sessions Consist of?

A programme of coaching sessions begins with an initial introductory coaching session to assess your needs and wishes and identify initial actions for you to try out to help you to start to move towards your desired outcomes. At the end of the introductory coaching session David will email you a project plan setting out what has been agreed at the session which will be updated at each further sessions. Further sessions will focus on implementing and updating your project plan as you move closer towards your desired outcomes.

How Long does each coaching Session Last?

Each coaching session last 1 hour and also include an individualised coaching Project Plan which David will email to you after each coaching session.

Do I Need to Do any Preparation before the Initial Life Coaching Session?

The initial introductory coaching session will give you the opportunity to talk through the issues that are of concern to you. Before the initial coaching session David will supply you by email with a short questionnaire to fill out to give information and details about where you want help or ideas and we will use that questionnaire as the starting point for the discussion in the initial coaching session.

The content of the introductory coaching session and subsequent coaching sessions will be tailored to your particular requirements. It will vary depending on whether you are looking for help in relationships, work, business, or personal development issues.

The introductory coaching session and each subsequent coaching session in your programme of coaching sessions will conclude with suggested steps for you to try out in relation to your concerns be they self esteem, anxiety, stress, work, relationship or other matters. You may also be given 'homework' exercises to work through to help you reflect on and address difficulties in a positive and constructive way.

Can I have Sessions One at a Time or Do I Need to Do a Programme?

You can purchase sessions individually. Discounts may be available if you purchase a block of sessions in advance. Please call 0117 230 119 for further details.

How Often Will I have to have Coaching Sessions?

In most cases to gain the most from your coaching programme it is recommended that you have sessions 1-2 weeks apart. Occasionally a longer interval may be recommended if that length of time does not seem sufficient for you to complete any tasks that you have been assigned or if a longer interval is more appropriate for your needs.

Is the Coaching done Face to Face or byTelephone?

If you are in Bristol or nearby you have the option of face to face coaching sessions in Bristol if you prefer. Telephone coaching sessions (by Skype if you prefer) are the appropriate option for people living elsewhere in the UK or outside the UK.

If your sessions are by telephone then you will be asked to telephone at an agreed time for your coaching session.

What Happens if I Want to Rearrange a Coaching Session?

Once a time for a coaching session has been agreed with you it can be rearranged by 48 hours notice, otherwise the full fee remains payable.

When Can Life Coaching Sessions be Held?

Sessions can start at any time from 9.30am - 6.30pm (UK time) on a weekday subject to availability.

What Former Coaching Clients Say about the Sesssions

Here are some comments of former clients who have had coaching sessions with David:

"The life coaching service would be suitable for anyone who needs some structure and support in areas of their life where they want to make changes..."

"Since working with David I have been able to take the time to define my goals and start to work towards them. It really helps my process to talk things through with someone else and he has been great.  Breaking my goals down into achievable steps has been very useful.  In all areas my life have improved.  I’ve designed my website, have been working in my target businesses, increased my income, started socializing more, creating artwork, proceeding on course work and am generally more hopeful and focused...

...David sees to the heart of a matter, is supportive and encouraging.  His patience, his willingness to help me stick with the programme and his ability to assist in my progress have been really helpful.  His background as a social worker and lawyer is a great combination because he has great listening skills and compassion, allied with an understanding of how it is to make one’s way in the world of business...the life coaching service would be suitable for anyone who needs some structure and support in areas of their life where they want to make changes." Maria, East Coast, U.S. A.

 

"I am surprised at how calm and relaxed I am about things now..."

"I am a lot more in control of my life and have started to enjoy everyday things which I have ignored for so long. Other people have noticed a change in me and I can see that I am valued by my clients. The introduction of an action programme to help balance the work has given me a better lifestyle which is much healthier all round. Through the project plan I have been able to include leisure and health activities with decreasing feelings of guilt...

I am surprised at how calm and relaxed I am about things now... By using David's constructive exercises I have been surprised and then delighted by how much difference they have made. Ideas, thoughts and feelings which had been suppressed have gradually come back and given me confidence that I can achieve my dreams." Sylvia, Kent, UK

 

"It has been great to have someone to talk to. You really listened..."

"It has been great to have someone to talk to. You really listened - by this I mean that you did not just listen but took in what I said. I have the feeling that what I say is not just waffle. You are an extremely helpful objective observer and have helped me to understand what I am really trying to achieve.” Fiona, London, UK

 

"I am now more able to believe in a future and in myself..."

"David impressed me as he was able to communicate an empathic understanding of my difficulties. I found his approach stimulating and a motivator for change. I am now more able to believe in a future and in myself, and have taken this opportunity to explore how I can gain a more fulfilling and quality work life that complements my family life." - Simon, Kent, UK

 

"I have successfully implemented a fundamental change in the control of my reactions which in turn leads me to react differently..."

"I have successfully implemented a fundamental change in the control of my reactions which in turn leads me to react differently and I feel better about the situation...It was reassuring for me previously to think the worst scenario, because the payback was that I could be less likely to feel disappointed with the outcome of a situation. My new approach is a lot easier on the system." Pippa, London, UK

 

"David was supportive and full of practical ideas...."

"I found the life coaching really helpful for me. David was not pushy at all. He listened and with his patient and committed approach, he brought things out that I had not even realised were there. He was supportive and full of practical ideas." Charles, London, UK

 

"Finding your website was a Godsend...."

"Dear David

Finding your website was a Godsend...My time table plans are gradually coming back to life and I know they will help to keep me focused...Many many thanks." Julie, Bristol, UK

 

"An excellent support system if you have decided to make changes in your life..."

"The coaching has helped me to become more aware of negative thought patterns and fears that have held me back in the past and through giving me ‘tools’ to deal with them the coaching has enabled me to start making changes in the way I communicate with people. I have found this is having a positive effect on all my relationships. It has also helped me focus on key issues that are important to me and to gain useful insights. 

The coaching sessions were well organised with clear objectives for each session. They were also structured in a way to lead you from having a overview of the areas in your life you may want to make changes in, to a detailed plan for making changes in particular areas ie from general issues to specific solutions. David was organised, reliable and very easy to work with. His sense of humour and practical advice made the whole process much more fun. He was also good at guiding discussions.

I think the service provides an excellent support system if you have decided to make changes in your life."Louisa, Madrid, Spain

 

"I have made steps towards improving my relationships with the people that mean the most to me..."

"I have made steps towards improving my relationships with the people that mean the most to me. I am pleased with my progress and have gained my confidence back. Having somebody to point things out that I may not have seen or recognised has been important. Suggestions on things that I could try has made the changes easier. I wanted to learn how to move forward and improve myself and it would not have been possible without the support and knowledge of a coach." - Charlotte, London, UK

 

 

How Much Does Life Coaching with CBT Techniques Cost?

The standard fee for a coaching session incoporating CBT techniques is £75.

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Sometimes people know that they want to achieve changes and are willing to invest in coaching sessions so long as they know that they will be successful, but they are apprehensive about taking the step of purchasing sessions because they are worried in case they do not work.

David is confident in the coaching techniques that he teaches which are based on proven methods and which he has wiitnessed working successful on countless occasions. He offers a guarantee. After the first session or any other coaching session, provided that you have kept the appointment for the coaching session, he will give you a full refund on request for the session if you think it has not lived up to your expectations. You can claim the refund any time up to 14 days after the session and it will be provided immediately.

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