Special Report on Building Self Esteem - Introduction
Where does Low Self Esteem come from?
Self Esteem is part of our self image. Our self image develops during our childhood and is the combination of our own natural personality features together with the messages and influences we receive from those around us about how we should act and feel about ourselves.
The Two Aspects of Self Esteem
If you experience low self esteem you probably have a self image which involves you:
(1) Not valuing yourself and your own worth very highly and/or
(2) Paying more attention and attaching more significance to the aspects of yourself with which you are unhappy than to those aspects which you feel are OK.
If this applies to you, then you may find it leads you to act in certain ways that cause problems for you and sometimes for others, for example:
- Not paying sufficient attention to your own needs and wants
- Finding it difficult to communicate effectively in relationships
- Saying 'Yes' to requests from others which you do not really want to meet or do not have time to meet
- Feeling bad about yourself and guilty if you do not achieve something you promised or if you do not act in a way which you feel you should or ought to have acted.
First Tips for Dealing with Low Self Esteem
If self esteem is an area where you have difficulties, you may find the following tips a useful start:
- Try to recognise occasions where you have achieved something you set out to do, as there may be positive aspects of your self and of what you do that you take for granted and do not give yourself credit for
- Make a note of qualities and abilities that you have - if you have difficulty in thinking of them, ask a trusted friend what they see as being the characteristics they like about you
- Eat a balanced diet and at regular times to help avoid your body getting out of balance.
- Start to keep a thoughts diary recording both any positive thoughts that you have and the negative thoughts that you have about yourself or things you have or haven't done which you feel guilty about or regret. When you have a negative thoughts, remind yourself of any positive ones to counterbalance them. If you find there aren't many positive thoughts then ask yourself how you can keep the negative thoughts in perspective. More detailed discussion of how to do this and of other techniques for improving self esteem are available in the free 6 page report on building self esteem which is emailed automatically with the first newsletter in my free Life Coach Tips Newsletter service (sign up details are below).
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