How to Raise Your Self Esteem
Can You Improve Self Esteem?
The short answer to this is: 'Yes!'. There are techniques and ideas for gradually improving your self image, self confidence and self belief, which research has shown to be effective. Some of these are given below.
Further ideas and helpful exercises are given in the eBook Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It which you can find information about lower down this web page. The book provides a useful resource for life coaches working to help people improve self esteem as well as for individuals wanting to raise their own self esteem.
Tips for Dealing with Low Self Confidence and Self Esteem
If self confidence is an area where you have difficulties and you would like help to improve self esteem, you may find it helpful to try out the following suggestions, which are common recommended features on self esteem courses:
- Give yourself credit when you achieve something you set out to do. Don't be too hard on yourself! Try to recognise occasions where you have done something you are proud of. There may be positive aspects of your self and of what you do that you take for granted and do not give yourself credit for.
- Make a list of qualities and abilities that you have - if you have difficulty in thinking of them, ask a trusted friend what they see as being the characteristics they like about you. Keep the list to hand so that you can remind yourself of it at times when you feel self critical.
- Eat a balanced diet and at regular times to help avoid your body getting out of balance and do some regular moderate exercise (walking or swimming is fine) to help your health and state of mind - exercise naturally releases endorphins in the body, which can help to relieve pain and induce positive feelings of wellbeing.
- Start to keep a thoughts diary recording both any positive thoughts that you have and any negative thoughts that you have about yourself or things you have or haven't done which you feel guilty about or regret. When you have negative thoughts, remind yourself of any positive ones to counterbalance them. If you find there aren't many positive thoughts then ask yourself how you can keep the negative thoughts in perspective.
- Write down ideas for keeping things in perspective on a card or piece of paper and carry the card around so that you can refer to it when the negative thoughts come back or your confidence suffers a knock.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others if possible - you are valuable as a human being in your right and for your unique qualities. No one is perfect - and if you were, you might be rather boring!
What is Self Esteem?
Self esteem is the respect that you have (or don’t have) for yourself. It relates to the way you think of and value yourself and your worth.
If you have low self esteem then it is likely that you will have a negative opinion of yourself and your abilities, whereas if you have high self esteem you feel that you have a valuable contribution to make to the lives of others and many of the situations you find yourself in.
Self esteem involves your perception of yourself. Often it may also involve a perception of the way others think of you or your abilities which is over-negative (you may tend to think of yourself as useless or worthless, when actually others value you and your opinion).
Understanding Low Self Esteem
If you experience low self esteem you probably have a self image which involves you:
(1) Not valuing yourself and your own worth very highly and/or
(2) Paying more attention and attaching more significance to the aspects of yourself with which you are unhappy than to those aspects which you feel are OK.
If this applies to you, then you may find it leads you to act in certain ways that cause problems for you and sometimes for others, for example:
- Not paying sufficient attention to your own needs and wants
- Saying 'Yes' to requests from others which you do not really want to meet or do not have time to meet
- Finding it difficult to communicate effectively in relationships
- Feeling bad about yourself and guilty if you do not achieve something you promised or if you do not act in a way which you feel you should or ought to have acted.
Where does Low Self Esteem come from?
Self Esteem is part of our self image. Our self image develops during our childhood and is the combination of our own natural personality features together with the messages and influences we receive from those around us about how we should act and feel about ourselves.
Self Esteem & Childhood
If you suffer from low self esteem you may have experienced one or more of the following factors in your childhood from your parents or other important figures:
- Unrealistic or high expectations of what you should achieve
- Experience of being compared negatively to others or labelled in a negative way so that it feels like you can never be good enough or that it is difficult act in a way which merits approval
- Parents or other primary caregivers who found it difficult to give appropriate warmth, love and acceptance to you or who abused you in one or more ways (emotionally, psychologically, sexually, physically, or through neglect)
- Parents who were too preoccupied with their own issues and concerns to be able to pay sufficient attention to your needs or who seemed to favour another sibling
- Rejection or factors similar to the above experienced at the hands of other children or from adults who played a part in your development (e.g. teachers or relatives).
Media messages about your gender, race, sexual orientation, culture, or other features can also play a part in giving you a negative self image or low self esteem or lack of confidence.
It is also possible to develop low self esteem as an adult. If for example, you experience a traumatic event, rejection or abuse, or conversely if you do an action about which you subsequently feel guilty.
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Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It
A Practical Guide to Building Self Esteem & Dealing with Negative Self Criticism
* Improve Your Self Esteem *
* Create a Positive Self Image *
*Deal with Negative Thoughts *
* Learn to Enjoy Yourself! *
The ebook Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It provides a practical, easy to use guide for raising your self esteem, improving the way you think and feel about yourself and increasing your confidence. It explains in simple terms:
- What self esteem is and how it arises
- The relevance of negative thoughts and different types of negative thoughts
- How you can counter your negative thoughts and beliefs and put them in a different perspective
- Ways in which you can learn to value yourself and your unique worth.
The Key to Dealing with Low Self Esteem
The key to understanding and dealing with low self esteem is learning how to deal with and prevent the negative thoughts and self perceptions which create and reinforce your belief that in some way you are not good enough. Once you can start to change the way you think about yourself, you can:
- Feel better about yourself
- Enjoy activities and your life more
- Create and sustain better relationships
- Achieve more in work-related areas
- Relax
Low Self Esteem and Limiting Beliefs
Limiting beliefs are general beliefs that you hold, whether stated or not which limit your ability to achieve what you want to.
Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It contains a unique explanation of how limiting beliefs can create and reinforce self esteem problems. The book gives a clear exposition of ways in which you can then:
- Discover what your own limiting beliefs are & how they are impacting on your self esteem
- Change or modify your own limiting beliefs in a practical way to start to turn around your self esteem for the better.
Low Self Esteem and CBT
CBT stands for 'Cognitive Behavioural Therapy' - a set of practical techniques which help you to deal with negative or distorted 'cognitions' or thoughts. The cognitive aspect of CBT is extremely helpful in helping people with low self esteem whose difficulties relate to thoughts about themselves which are inaccurate and overly negative. Cognitive techniques are mostly simple to learn and practical (this is not a form of psychotherapy) and address the root of your self esteem difficulties at their heart.
Simple explanations of how to use cognitive techniques to overcome self esteem are at the heart of the self help ebook Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It
Special Features of Low Self Esteem - How to Deal With It
The ebook covers a range of different areas relating to self esteem including:
- The part played by self critical thoughts in reinforcing a negative self image and how to use Balancing Thoughts in particular situations to help deal with your tendency to self critical thoughts.
- Different types of negative thinking patterns, such as ‘mind-reading’ and ‘fortune telling’ and suggestions for possible ways of dealing with these negative thinking tendencies
- What self esteem is, how low self esteem expresses itself and where it comes from
- How to develop an ability to value yourself and the use of personal affirmations
- A simple way of focusing on positives rather than ignoring them
- Limiting beliefs which may be restricting your ability to think well of yourself unconsciously or consciously
- what they are and some different types
- the impact of limiting beliefs on self esteem
- identifying limiting beliefs from childhood and adulthood
- taking control of limiting beliefs and replacing them with new beliefs
- Remembering your rights.
How the Book Deals with Self Esteem Issues
Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It provides:
- A unique analysis of the key role of negative thoughts in creating low self esteem
- Explanations of proven cognitive behavioural techniques (CBT) to help change negative thinking patterns
- Practical exercises to help you work through relevant issues to your own self esteem in a positive and helpful way
- A project plan format where you can bring everything you have learned from the book together and create your own personalised pan for making yourself
- Happier
- More positive
- More balanced
- More fufilled
Contents of Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It
The book is divided into several sections covering different aspects of how to deal with and change the negative thoughts that underpin your low self esteem and reinforce your negtive perception of yourself. In each section you are given Exercises to work through, to develop the practical techniques needed to start to improve your thoughts and feelings about yourself.
The topics covered by the different sections of the ebook and the different exercises included to help you use the book as a practical and effective guide on your journey to better self esteem are listed below:
Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with ItFull Contents List:
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About the Author
Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It is a practical book written by Self-Help Author David Bonham-Carter who specialises in the use of CBT and other practical techniques to help people deal with negative thinking patterns and address difficulties such as:
- Self esteem and confidence issues
- Stress, anxiety and assertiveness
- Life change and motivation
- Relationship and communication difficulties
David worked for many years in the UK as a social worker before becoming a professional life coach in private practice for several years. He now focuses on sharing useful coaching and CBT techniques through self-help guides.
Low Self Esteem - A Practical, Helpful Guide
Low Self Esteem - How to Deal with It, has as it subtitle "A Practical Guide to Building Self Esteem & Dealing with Negative Self Criticism". The book is very much a practical book. It contains step by step exercises to help you use the ideas in it to improve your self esteem and it culminates with a project plan form that you can use and adapt to your own situation in order to have a template that you can follow as you try out different useful strategies towards helping to improve your self esteem, confidence and belief in yourself.
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Feedback on the Self Esteem Techniques in the Book "The affirmations helped me initially to make me look at myself in a more positive way and be aware of my achievements and qualities. I have got a lot of my confidence back again... ...Giving my Project Plan a name which pinpointed how I needed to direct my efforts was really helpful. I can be a bit of a Peter Pan type person and having concrete techniques such as the Balancing Thoughts to try out was good for me and helped me to focus on the outcomes I wanted and on how to achieve them. This enabled me to avoid going into an emotional rut... ... My friends had got used to expecting me to be emotional and rant and are quite surprised by the new Sonia! I’ve let go a bit now and found that it gives me more control and I feel much more relaxed... I am happier with myself now and my relationship is way better than it was." - Sonia, Bristol, UK "Previously I was very tired..My mind was all over the place with contradicting emotions...I was very confused about my relationship. I now feel more confident. I am more aware of my positive traits...[Now] James and I are making more of an effort in our relationship and I am also exercising more...I am more able to look at the positive aspects of my own character and my future. I know that I can achieve my goals." - Beth, London, UK "Hi David Thank you for the exercises and forms. They have helped me a lot. I now have techniques to combat unrealistic and negative thoughts and will be giving this a good go." - Mark, Hertfordshire, UK "I bought the book for my coaching practice a week or so ago. It is very well laid out and I find the sections and instructions clear. I am planning to use the ideas in the book to work with clients on their self esteem." - Susan, West Midlands, UK |
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The cost of the Guide including all the practical exercises for helping you to improve self esteem in a step by step way is just $14.99! It is available online for immediate download in PDF format.
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