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Looking for Counselling for Jealousy? -
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What is Coaching with CBT?

Coaching with CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) techniques is the approach I use if you are struggling with jealousy issues, to help you evaluate your jealous thoughts and deal with your jealous feelings effectively.

CBT or cognitive behavioural therapy evolved from the ideas of Albert Ellis (the founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) and Aaron Beck (the founder of Cognitive Therapy). It is based on the fundamental principle that our thought patterns and interpretations of situations influence the nature and strength of our feelings and our actions.

Jealous Thoughts

If you are jealous then it is likely that you are experiencing strong negative thoughts about your partner (or whoever is involved in the jealousy situation) such as:

You may also experience worries about yourself such as:

Coaching with CBT compared to Traditional Counselling

What Causes Jealousy?

Jealousy can be caused by a combination of different things such as:

Jealousy and Insecurity

If you are jealous in a particular relationship then it is likely that you are feeling insecure in it at least to some degree.

This can occur because you have a genuine reason for doubting the other person's commitment or it can occur because you are exaggerating or getting out of perspective some of the actions or comments of your partner (or someone else you care for).

CBT and Jealousy

Coaching with CBT techniques looks carefully at your jealous thoughts and helps you to evaluate them and put them in perspective.

You may be prone to:

CBT provides techniques for helping you to assess those thoughts in a calm way and to balance them out with new thinking patterns and ways of acting which will help you to deal with your jealousy much better.

Jealousy and Envy

Sometimes people ask what is the difference between jealousy and envy.

You can either see them as being different things or you can see there as being two different types of jealousy - one which involves suspicion or fear of rivals when you are in a relationship and the oher which involves longing after what someone else has:

The Difference Between Jealousy and Envy:

  1. Suspicion and Fear of Possible Rivals –For example, if you are in a relationship and you fear that your partner is or may be attracted by someone else and may be unfaithful to you or reject or leave you.
  1. Envy – Being envious of someone else: for example, if you envy someone’s qualities, possessions, relationships or success.

1. Suspicion and fear of possible rivals or of betrayal is a form of anxiety.

2. Envy by contrast is a form of desire - wishing that you had something that you don't think you do have.

Both types of jealousy can be helped by CBT techniques to help you balance out your thought patterns.

In some cases there may also be self esteem issues (although this is not always so) and coaching with CBT techniques can help you to build your self esteem and manage yoru self doubts if that is relevant to you.

Your Jealousy Coach

I am a life coach who specialises in the use of CBT techniques to help with jealousy and other forms of anxiety.

My initial background and professional training was as a social worker where I gained experience and training in the use of CBT techniques to help people address social, personal and relationship difficulties.

Subsequently I set up my own life coaching practice and over several years have developed particular expertise in addressing the kinds of issue where thought patterns are leading to problematic feelings, anxieties and behaviour which you can regret.

Jealousy is one of my foremost areas of expertise.

I have training in a number of different approaches to helping people, including:

Feedback on Coaching for Jealousy

"Before the coaching I had a feeling of not coping. I was concerned about my feelings of jealousy with an enduring need to find out whether my partner was faithful and the relationship right. I was also very concerned about being judged, particularly when out with my partner...

… I am now more confident in my attributes and abilities. I still sometimes ruminate about the relationships but I now have been fewer concerns about my partner’s fidelity. The balancing statements have helped me in achieving this along with control of my alcohol and caffeine intake. The balancing statements have also helped my confidence along with the positive reminders. I feel more relaxed and in control...

…My confidence has returned to large degree and in turn this has helped to relieve some of my anxieties about being judged.” - Mark


Your Introductory Coaching for Jealousy Session includes:

What Happens after the Introductory Coaching Session

There is no obligation on you to continue with further coaching sessions after the first one, but in most cases people find it very helpful. If you want to arrange further coaching sessions you can then purchase a programme of 5 further coaching sessions to help address your jealousy issues further and systematically.

Future sessions will aim to help you to: