<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206</id><updated>2009-10-21T13:21:24.925+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Life Coaching Tips</title><subtitle type='html'></subtitle><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/blogger.html'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><link rel='next' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default?start-index=26&amp;max-results=25'/><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/atom.xml'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>117</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-5922488617926856099</id><published>2009-10-21T13:16:00.004+01:00</published><updated>2009-10-21T13:21:24.932+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Marketing for Life Coaches</title><content type='html'>Many life coaches are very good at what they do, but not so good at marketing their life coaching service.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I have recently posted an article on my website which gives some initial comments on marketing options for life coaches to get your coaching service known.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For further information, click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/become-lifecoach-marketing.html"&gt;Marketing for Life Coaches&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="alternative-dieting" name="alternative-dieting"&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-5922488617926856099?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/5922488617926856099/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=5922488617926856099' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5922488617926856099'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5922488617926856099'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/10/marketing-for-life-coaches.html' title='Marketing for Life Coaches'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-4575683227528053164</id><published>2009-10-19T14:46:00.017+01:00</published><updated>2009-10-19T15:59:20.457+01:00</updated><title type='text'>The Alternative Way of Dieting</title><content type='html'>&lt;div align="left"&gt;Most standard diets set out by encouraging you to devise a program of what you are going to eat. There is usually some choice built into the program or you may be allowed various 'sins' or lapses where you eat some kind of forbidden food, but that is permitted because on the whole you are sticking within the diet plan or are within calorie limits that you have set yourself. Nonetheless the concept remains the same - you are encouraged to lose weight by planning to a greater or lesser degree what you are going to eat.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This kind of approach can work, but it is hard work. It also does not always deal with emotional issues that may be involved in over eating - such as 'comfort eating' or a lack of belief in your ability to change eating habits. But what alternative approach to dieting is there?-&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I recently came across (and listened to) an MP3 product by the experienced UK hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, Julie Mann, which tackles losing weight in a different way. Instead of being asked to devise a diet plan, you get an MP3 audio download which uses hypnotic suggestion and relaxation techniques to put you into a confident, relaxed state where you can make healthy choices about you eat. You start to trust yourself to make decisions.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This hypnosis MP3 rests on the belief that we each have resources in us which can when tapped into start to regulate our body and what we eat in a sensible way. So it's not about forcing you to eat certain things or about not eat certain things. It's about helping you to connect with your senses and your natural innate ability to realise when you have eaten enough, and helping you to feel good and comfortable about stopping eating at that point and realising that you can be in control.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The beauty of this kind of method when it works is that your attempts to give up eating unhealthily are no longer such a fight - you are learning to eat healthily through your own inner unconscious resources and learning to realise that any emotional or other needs that you might have been trying to meet through comfort eating can be met in other ways through your own resourcefulness. This doesn't mean this is an instant diet cure - like anything else it requires patience and application - I would suggest that you listen to the MP3 daily at possible until you reach a point where you feel you have made the positive changes in eating habits that you want and no longer need the positive reinforcement of the MP3.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For more information and details about how you can purchase and download the MP3 immediately click on the link below: &lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://c18855uxkfatr7m84dl401redb.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=BLOG1" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size:130%;"&gt;Losing Weight - the Alternative Way&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="relaxation-techniques" name="relaxation-techniques"&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-4575683227528053164?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/4575683227528053164/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=4575683227528053164' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4575683227528053164'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4575683227528053164'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/10/alternative-way-of-dieting.html' title='The Alternative Way of Dieting'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-2837088065704980424</id><published>2009-10-12T14:55:00.006+01:00</published><updated>2009-10-12T15:05:09.067+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Relaxation Techniques</title><content type='html'>If you find yourself feeling tense or anxious then it can be helpful to practise relaxation exercises to help to bring your body and mind back into a calmer state.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Below you can find a link to an article setting out 3 simple relaxation techniques:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. Counting Backwards.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;2. Tensing your toes (you can also try this with other parts of your body).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;3. Guided imagery exercise.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The exercises may also be of assistance if you have difficulty in getting to sleep. Personally I find the 'Tensing your toes' exercise most helpful for that purpose:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/article-relaxationtechniques.html"&gt;Relaxation Techniques&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="jealousy-self-esteem" name="jealousy-self-esteem"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-2837088065704980424?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/2837088065704980424/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=2837088065704980424' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2837088065704980424'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2837088065704980424'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/10/relaxation-techniques.html' title='Relaxation Techniques'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-9086726345247503402</id><published>2009-09-01T13:00:00.006+01:00</published><updated>2009-09-01T13:12:23.778+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Jealousy and Self Esteem</title><content type='html'>Jealousy and low self esteem can be related in two ways.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;First of all, if you already have low self esteem then you may feel that people close to you will prefer others to you - because you don't value yourself enough. This can contribute towards feelings of envy, jealousy or suspicion of others who you think may gain the attention or interest of your partner or someone else important to you.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Secondly, even if you do not usually have low self esteem but you have a tendency to jealousy for other reasons then you may find that if you act in jealous ways your self esteem is impacted, because you feel ashamed about the way you are acting and feeling.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If either of these situations applies to you then you may be interested in a collection of ebooks which I have now put together in one downloadable pack to complement each other on the topics of jealousy, low self esteem and assertiveness.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find out more, click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/jealousy-self-esteem-resource.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Jealousy and Self Esteem&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="well-behaved-women" name="well-behaved-women"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-9086726345247503402?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/9086726345247503402/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=9086726345247503402' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/9086726345247503402'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/9086726345247503402'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/09/jealousy-and-self-esteem.html' title='Jealousy and Self Esteem'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-3852827479751901305</id><published>2009-08-24T11:56:00.009+01:00</published><updated>2009-08-29T16:38:18.036+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History</title><content type='html'>I recently came across the quote: 'Well behaved women seldom make history'. The idea of the quote I think is to encourage women to step outside cultural, social or gender based roles which may be restrictive.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Curiously enough the quote also had some resonance for me as a man. It made me realise the number of times &lt;em&gt;I &lt;/em&gt;have done something or worried about something because I feel it's what I &lt;em&gt;ought&lt;/em&gt; to do (or not do as the case may be).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For me as someone who uses CBT techniques in life coaching I guess the question I would suggest people ask themselves in relation to actions (or inaction) they follow based on perceptions or unspoken rules about what they &lt;em&gt;ought&lt;/em&gt; to do or &lt;em&gt;ought not&lt;/em&gt; to do is:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;What are likely to be the consequences?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If a balanced appraisal of the likely consquences of acting in a certain way leads you to believe that the benefits outweigh the disadvantages then maybe it is time to try out acting that way if you haven't done so before.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If it is possible to do so first on a small scale to see what the results are and evaluate them before deciding whether to try the action again then that may be sensible and may also help you to get over the initial hurdle of doing something different from normal.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If on the other hand the change in behaviour is large scale and the potential consequences great, then you might want to take independent advise before taking a momentous decision or action, but ultimately the choice is yours.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="motivating-tips" name="motivating-tips"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-3852827479751901305?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/3852827479751901305/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=3852827479751901305' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/3852827479751901305'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/3852827479751901305'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/08/well-behaved-women-seldom-make-history.html' title='Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-6066524854739936967</id><published>2009-08-17T11:41:00.005+01:00</published><updated>2009-08-17T11:58:40.569+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Motivating Tips</title><content type='html'>Sometimes in my life coaching sessions I ask clients to come up with particular mottos or phrases which they find motivating and to remind themselves of these on a regular basis or when feeling a bit demotivated in order to get themselves going again.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Examples of the things both clients and friends have come up with are:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;'Try everything in moderation - even moderation'&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;'Life is too short to worry about it!'&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;'Nothing is a problem only a challenge'&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;'Smile at others and the world smiles at you'&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;See if you can think of a motivating phrase for yourself then write it out and stick it somewhere where you will see it regularly such as in your car or on your computer or in your kitchen.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Finding a phrase that will help to motivate you is a personal thing. My only tip would be that once you've thought of a phrase ask yourself whether you will feel positive when you say it to yourself or whether you are actually putting more pressure on yourself - if the former, great; if the latter then see if you can think of an alternative which is a bit lighter. If the phrase it a touch humourous that can often help you to relax and move forward. &lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="sex-therapy" name="sex-therapy"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-6066524854739936967?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/6066524854739936967/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=6066524854739936967' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6066524854739936967'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6066524854739936967'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/08/motivating-tips.html' title='Motivating Tips'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-8851467251421547388</id><published>2009-08-17T11:17:00.009+01:00</published><updated>2009-08-19T10:49:58.814+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Sex Therapy Bristol - Bath - South Gloucestershire</title><content type='html'>&lt;div align="left"&gt;Sex therapy or counselling is a specialist area of work that I sometimes get asked for recommendations on.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;This is not an area of work that I personally specialise in. However, if you live in Bristol, South Gloucestershire or Bath and are seeking a helpful sex therapy service to help you deal with sexual issues or concerns in your relationship in a practical effective way, then you can find information about a useful service involving cognitive behavioural techniques and other specialist coaching approaches at the link below:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.psycho-sexualtherapy.co.uk/" target="_blank"&gt;Sex Therapy Bristol - Bath - South Gloucestershire&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="happiness-economics" name="happiness-economics"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-8851467251421547388?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/8851467251421547388/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=8851467251421547388' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/8851467251421547388'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/8851467251421547388'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/08/sex-therapy-bristol-bath-south.html' title='Sex Therapy Bristol - Bath - South Gloucestershire'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-6888593764787817472</id><published>2009-08-13T09:28:00.006+01:00</published><updated>2009-08-13T10:31:40.192+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Happiness Economics</title><content type='html'>It seems that the idea of happiness economics - that governments in setting taxes and policies should aim to promote general well being - could be becoming fashionable.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Anyone familiar with moral philosopy is likely to know of the utilitarian view championed by John Stuart Mill and others in the 19th century that the best action is the one that brings the greatest happiness to the highest number of people.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Happiness economics seems to promote a similar idea but now brought into the field of economic policy.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;David Cameron and some other conservatives such as the former conservative leader Iain Duncan-Smith who established the think tank the 'Centre for Social Justice' appear to have embraced the idea of seeking to promote 'general well being' or 'GWB' and some Blairite figures also endorsed the idea.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find out more about 'Happiness Economics' visit the link below on the BBC website:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://newsvote.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/business/8164386.stm" target="_blank"&gt;Happiness Economics&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="life-lemon" name="life-lemon"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-6888593764787817472?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/6888593764787817472/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=6888593764787817472' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6888593764787817472'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6888593764787817472'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/08/happiness-economics.html' title='Happiness Economics'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-6881703761145383663</id><published>2009-07-31T09:56:00.007+01:00</published><updated>2009-07-31T10:31:08.192+01:00</updated><title type='text'>If Life Hands You a Lemon</title><content type='html'>The other day I received in the post a brochure from a provider of alternative holidays with an editorial focusing on the saying 'If life hands you a lemon make lemonade'. The idea of the saying is to encourage you to try to make an opportunity out of a crisis.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;There are some shocks or crises which can turn into positives despite their apparent gloom. Sometimes being made redundant, for example, can lead you into starting to look into career options which you did not dare to consider when you were in steady employment.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It is a daunting thing to be taken out of your comfort zone but if this happens then one possible way of approaching the situation is to try to see if there are any new opportunities for you to develop yourself or to do new things or develop new skills or relationships arising from the situation.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;But what if the situation is not one that you immediately want to forget or to move on from? This may be the case for situations involving change in a relationship or loss. If that is so, then you may find the following helpful:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Reflect on the situation that you were in which has now changed. If there were genuine positives in it that you have lost and which may never return - for example, if the situation involves the end of a relationship or a bereavement or a parting - then reflect on the positives that you had and if you can do so, commemmorate them or celebrate them in a way that is fitting to the nature of them - if appropriate you might write about them or create a photo album or some other reminder.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The idea is not to attach yourself to the past but to allow yourself to have a fitting reminder of it for when you need it and to give elements of your personal history and the people and events in it, the respect due to them.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="motivation-action" name="motivation-action"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-6881703761145383663?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/6881703761145383663/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=6881703761145383663' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6881703761145383663'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6881703761145383663'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/07/if-life-hands-you-lemon.html' title='If Life Hands You a Lemon'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-5512867006703923155</id><published>2009-07-19T10:04:00.005+01:00</published><updated>2009-07-19T10:12:31.096+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Motivation &amp; Action</title><content type='html'>&lt;div align="left"&gt;Do you ever find it difficult to motivate yourself to complete a task. Maybe you are dreading doing it or perhaps it's just too boring?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Below is a link to a page where I feature a life coaching exercise called a "Motivation and Actions Checklist" - a practical tool for helping you to get yourself to do those things which you have been putting off.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Click below to find out more: &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/actionchecklist.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Motivation &amp;amp; Actions Checklist&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="music-heart" name="music-heart"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-5512867006703923155?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/5512867006703923155/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=5512867006703923155' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5512867006703923155'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5512867006703923155'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/07/motivation-action.html' title='Motivation &amp; Action'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-1758099857401729518</id><published>2009-07-03T12:42:00.010+01:00</published><updated>2009-07-03T13:16:54.147+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Is Music Good for the Heart?</title><content type='html'>&lt;div align="left"&gt;The BBC News channel recently featured an article on its website describing the results of a recent study into the effects of music on heart beat and blood pressure.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;According to the article, the study suggested that music with a faster tempo increases breathing, heart rate and blood pressure while slower music does the opposite.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This seems consistent with common sense - if you are listening to lively, quick music you are likely to feel more animated and for it to be reflected in physiological changes. If you are listening to slower calmer music one would hope it will help you to calm down.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Soft slow gentle music is often used in relaxation tapes and CDs and I guess here is some scientific evidence to support that use.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Perhaps more intriguingly the study also seems to have gone further and suggested that operatic music, which alternates between fast and slow, could be the best for the heart and circulation.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Verdi's arias it seems sychronise perfectly with natural cardiovascular rhythm!&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To read the full article, click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://newsvote.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/8112247.stm" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Opera is 'Music for the Heart&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;strong&gt;'&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="money-coaching" name="money-coaching"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-1758099857401729518?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/1758099857401729518/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=1758099857401729518' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/1758099857401729518'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/1758099857401729518'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/07/is-music-good-for-heart.html' title='Is Music Good for the Heart?'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-7428910476098357264</id><published>2009-06-22T15:26:00.008+01:00</published><updated>2009-06-22T15:46:11.601+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Earning Money as a Life Coach</title><content type='html'>Promotional material for life coaching courses may often make it sound as if it is easy to make money from being a life coach.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Is this really the case?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;On my website as part of my &lt;a href="http://www.be-a-life-coach.co.uk/"&gt;Becoming a Life Coach Newsletter&lt;/a&gt;, I have now published an article considering the realities of making money as a life coach and suggesting some considerations to bear in mind if you are thinking of becoming a life coach.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The article reflects on motivations for becoming a life coach, marketing channels for developing a life coaching business and additional sources of income asides from direct life coaching services for clients or groups.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To read the article, click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/be-lifecoach-money.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Can You Make Money being a Life Coach?&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Life Coaching Books and Resources visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;Life Coaching Books&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;a id="coaching-resources" name="coaching-resources"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-7428910476098357264?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/7428910476098357264/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=7428910476098357264' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/7428910476098357264'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/7428910476098357264'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/06/earning-money-as-life-coach.html' title='Earning Money as a Life Coach'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-587957819207883735</id><published>2009-06-19T12:14:00.009+01:00</published><updated>2009-07-01T10:05:22.269+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Life Coaching Resources</title><content type='html'>People who read my &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachtips.html"&gt;Life Coach Tips&lt;/a&gt; newsletter tend to fall into one of two categories:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;(1) People seeking to make changes or improvements in their own life.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;(2) Those who work as life coaches or in other helping roles, for example in the voluntary sectory or as counsellors and want to develop their coaching practice or find out more about different techniques and ideas that are used in life coaching.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Both in my own personal experience of making life changes and in my work as a coach, I have come firmly to believe in the the importance of having a set of tried and tested techniques or tools that you can use when you want to take steps forward.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;With that in mind I have put together a number of coaching eBooks which cover coaching techniques for use in dealing with different issues such as self esteem, life change, assertiveness and jealousy.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Included in these eBooks are some of the techniques which I have found to be most useful, such as cognitive behavioural (CBT) techniques for dealing with problematic or negative thoughts relating to particular issues.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I have designed most of the eBooks so that they can be of use to both individuals and life coaches and they are set out for practical use - if you are just looking for a general discussion of the issues, these are not the books for you, but if you are looking for practical programmes, life coaching exercises or techniques to try out with clear instructions and specific ideas, then they may well be right for you.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;One recent product I have designed is a &lt;em&gt;Life Coaching Resources Pack &lt;/em&gt;which bundles together at a reduced price four ebooks on different topics - &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/selfhelpprogramme.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Changing Your Life&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/low-self-esteem.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Low Self Esteem&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/assertiveness-training-book.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;How to Be Assertive&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/life-coaching-exercises.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coaching Exercises&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;.&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If you are interested in acquiring some life coaching techniques and tools to help you move forward in your own life or to help your work as a coach with clients in life coaching sessions, you can find out more about the Life Coaching Resources Pack at the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/coaching-resources-pack.html"&gt;Life Coaching Resources&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h3&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;(&lt;strong&gt;&lt;u&gt;Note for visitors to this blog from the USA&lt;/u&gt;:&lt;/strong&gt; If you are reading this from the United States and would prefer to see pricing in US dollars rather than pounds sterling, the product is alternatively offered in US dollars at &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/selfhelpbooks/life-change.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Life Coaching Resources Pack - USA Version&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;) &lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="panic-anxiety" name="panic-anxiety"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-587957819207883735?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/587957819207883735/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=587957819207883735' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/587957819207883735'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/587957819207883735'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/06/life-coaching-resources.html' title='Life Coaching Resources'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-3977782116803963844</id><published>2009-06-04T10:28:00.011+01:00</published><updated>2009-06-04T20:00:34.126+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Panic and Anxiety Programs Review</title><content type='html'>&lt;div align="left"&gt;A large number of people experience panic attacks or severe anxiety at some point in their life. However sufferers often seek to hide their experiences from others because of shame or not wanting to appear inadequate or incompetent (this applies particularly to people who experience feelings of panic when making presentations in a job setting).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Quite often, hiding your anxiety can actually make it worse - because it increases your fear of other people finding out. Actually what can help with anxiety is to try to accept what is happening almost as if you were observing yourself from outside like a scientist, because this decreases the fear and the 'fight or flight' response which is fuelling your panic and anxiety and which gets worse if you try to fight the anxiety.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This is easier said than done - and if you experience panic attacks you may think I'm crazy in suggesting it! To help you start to come to terms with your anxiety and therefore reduce the level of panic, there are specific techniques which you can use such as distraction and breathing or relaxation techniques.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;There are a number of panic or anxiety non medical treatment programs or methods which cover some of these different techniques and can be helpful in addressing them. Here is a short review of the two online panic and anxiety attack programs that I would most recommend, namely:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. Jon Mercer's Easy Calm downloadable videos which you can find out more about at: &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://coach77dbc.easycalm.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=BLOG1" target="_blank"&gt;Easy Calm&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;and&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;2. Joe Barry's Panic Away eBook which you can find out more about at:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://coach77dbc.panicaway.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=BLOG2" target="-blank"&gt;Panic Away&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;Which one of these 2 approaches for dealing with panic attacks and anxiety do I think is better? That's quite difficult to answer as I think both are good. I think which is better for you may well depend on your personal learning style - the Panic Away program is an eBook, so if following written instructions and ideas suits your learning style then this may be for you. It is also a little cheaper than the Easy Calm program (neither is cheap but compared to the cost of individualised coaching sessions they both offer good value in my view).&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;The Panic Away Program also offers Joe Barry's famous &lt;em&gt;One Move Technique&lt;/em&gt; for eliminating panic attacks quickly. This is a virtue if you are able to master the technique because then you may get a quick and helpful solution to panic attacks. The downside is that if you are unable to do so, then you could be disappointed.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;The Easy Calm videos by contrast offer a more incremental approach - building up skills to beat panic attacks step by step by a series of exercises and ideas. Also the instruction is given on downloadable videos and you hear Jon Mercer's voice speaking (there is a sample of the first video on his site at the link to it at the foot of this blog entry so you can see what it is like). Therefore, the Easy Calm Videos do not offer such a quick solution as the Panic Away eBook but they have good helpful ideas and a patient supportive approach.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="left"&gt;The Easy Calm videos would get my vote, but it's very much a matter of personal preference and some of you may prefer the Panic Away eBook. To find out more about each approach click on the links below:&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://coach77dbc.easycalm.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=BLOG1" target="_blank"&gt;Easy Calm - Downloadable Videos&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;or&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://coach77dbc.panicaway.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=BLOG2" target="-blank"&gt;Panic Away - eBook&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="assertiveness-training" name="assertiveness-training"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-3977782116803963844?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/3977782116803963844/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=3977782116803963844' title='3 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/3977782116803963844'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/3977782116803963844'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/06/panic-and-anxiety-programs-review.html' title='Panic and Anxiety Programs Review'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>3</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-555780244678079745</id><published>2009-05-29T18:53:00.011+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-29T19:09:51.861+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Assertiveness Training</title><content type='html'>Assertiveness is one of the issues that people most frequently request my coaching support for.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;As part of my series of &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;life coaching books&lt;/a&gt;, I have recently written a downloadable eBook describing 5 different methods of helping people to become more assertive.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find out more please click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/assertiveness-training-book.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Assertiveness Training - How to Be Assertive&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="affiliate-marketing" name="affiliate-marketing"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-555780244678079745?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/555780244678079745/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=555780244678079745' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/555780244678079745'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/555780244678079745'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/05/assertiveness-training.html' title='Assertiveness Training'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-2346394279014567329</id><published>2009-05-24T13:06:00.003+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-24T13:14:19.229+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Affiliate Marketing - Self Improvement Products</title><content type='html'>Affiliate Marketing involves promoting and selling someone else's products for a commission or other fee.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The web page below gives some information about affiliate marketing if you want to earn additional income from selling someone else's self improvement products, such as self help ebooks, online under an affiliate program.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/affiliate-marketing.html"&gt;Affiliate Marketing - Self Improvement Products&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;a id="anger" name="anger"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-2346394279014567329?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/2346394279014567329/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=2346394279014567329' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2346394279014567329'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2346394279014567329'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/05/affiliate-marketing-self-improvement.html' title='Affiliate Marketing - Self Improvement Products'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-4868538552285704211</id><published>2009-05-24T10:18:00.007+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-24T10:30:35.773+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Dealing with Anger</title><content type='html'>&lt;p&gt;Anger is a natural emotional state in which triggered by a situation or by your own feelings about yourself or someone else you experience a surge of energy and a flow of adrenaline through your body.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;In itself there is nothing wrong with anger - the problems arise when it is excessive or out of control and when you behave towards someone else (or yourself) in a damaging way because of your anger. When that happens it can create problems for you and for others.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Anger is one of the biggest causes of difficulties in relationships and also carries health risks for the person experiencing it, including potentially increasing your risk of:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;high blood pressure &lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;heart disease and cancer &lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;depression &lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;self harm&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;substance misuse &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;For some information about possible approaches to dealing with anger effectively, click on the link below: &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/anger.html"&gt;Dealing with Anger&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;a id="coaching-exercises" name="coaching-exercises"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-4868538552285704211?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/4868538552285704211/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=4868538552285704211' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4868538552285704211'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4868538552285704211'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/05/dealing-with-anger.html' title='Dealing with Anger'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-2525089558815816267</id><published>2009-05-09T13:24:00.006+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-09T13:30:55.509+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Life Coaching Exercises</title><content type='html'>My latest eBook available for immediate download is a collection of 50 life coaching exercises which should be useful both for personal development and for life coaches who would like a resource of coaching exercises that they can use with clients in appropriate situations when providing coaching.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find out details of the life coaching exercises included, please click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/life-coaching-exercises.html"&gt;Life Coaching Exercises&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="food-brain-signals" name="food-brain-signals"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-2525089558815816267?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/2525089558815816267/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=2525089558815816267' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2525089558815816267'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2525089558815816267'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/05/life-coaching-exercises.html' title='Life Coaching Exercises'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-7379781013133747295</id><published>2009-05-01T12:35:00.041+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-12T17:44:38.989+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Unhealthy Food and Brain Signals</title><content type='html'>According to an article published in the Daily Telegraph on 1 May 2009, researchers have now discovered that different parts of the brain become active when people are tempted by unhealthy food.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The article highlights an 'angel' part of the brain which it seems is strong in people who have good self control and less strong - according to the article - in those whose self control is not so good.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;On the other hand it seems that there is another part of the brain, the 'devil' part of the brain, which is active when you feel that temptation to eat unhealthy but enticing food.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You can see the article online at the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/scienceandtechnology/science/sciencenews/5252525/Angel-and-devil-parts-of-the-brain-battle-for-supremacy.html"target="_blank"&gt;Angel and Devil Brain Signals for Food&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The technical name for the angel part of the brain if you're interested in that kind of thing is "the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex" (DLPFC).&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The practical question remains however - what can you or I do to increase the chances of our angel part of the brain being activated and helping us to control our eating habits?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The scientists are still working on that one, so until they find the answer, it may be best to stick to common sense practical strategies to increase your chances of eating healthily, such as:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. Remove opportuntities for eating tempting but unhealthy food - if it's not there you can't eat it.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;2. Identify in advance situations where you might be tempted to eat unhealthily or to excess and prepare a plan for how you are going to deal with those situations.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;3. Think back to occasions when you successfully resisted temptation and if possible repeat the strategies that worked for you then.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="einstein" name="einstein"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-7379781013133747295?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/7379781013133747295/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=7379781013133747295' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/7379781013133747295'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/7379781013133747295'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/05/unhealthy-food-and-brain-signals.html' title='Unhealthy Food and Brain Signals'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-2111655420851912839</id><published>2009-04-24T16:05:00.006+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-02T07:41:06.459+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Einstein's Definition of Insanity</title><content type='html'>The famous scientist Albert Einsten is reported to have defined insanity as consisting of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;If this is so, then maybe most of us are insane, because I for one would have to admit that at times I have repeated behaviour in a similar situation for no particularly good reason but with the hope that maybe this time things will be different.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The point though is a good one from a life coaching perspective: If you find that you keep on doing something in one way and it is not bringing the results that you want then why not try to do something different?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Of course, it makes sense to assess the risks of doing something different first and if these seem too high then maybe moderate your change or try it out in a small way first to test the water without running too much risk if that is possible. Ask yourself 'What have I got to lose?' - If the answer is not much then why not try out the new approach and see if it works? If it doesn't you can try something else.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This brings me in mind of another reported quote from Einstein.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;He is supposed to have said that a person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;That is a quote I like! &lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="self-criticism" name="self-criticism"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-2111655420851912839?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/2111655420851912839/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=2111655420851912839' title='1 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2111655420851912839'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/2111655420851912839'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/04/einsteins-definition-of-insanity.html' title='Einstein&apos;s Definition of Insanity'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>1</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-4846550468064028584</id><published>2009-04-10T11:55:00.009+01:00</published><updated>2009-04-10T13:06:51.760+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Self Criticism</title><content type='html'>Negative self criticsm is often an aspect of low self esteem. If you find you are often too critical of yourself then try going through the checklist of questions below to help give some balance to your thinking:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;1. Ask yourself: 'If I were talking to a friend who was in my situation and they were expressing those self critical thoughts, what would I say to them?' The response might include suggestions like:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;‘Don’t be so hard on yourself’ &lt;/em&gt;OR &lt;em&gt;‘No one else noticed so it didn’t really matter’&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;2. Alternatively, imagine a reasonable and supportive friend is talking to &lt;em&gt;you&lt;/em&gt; about your self critical perception of yourself. What might &lt;em&gt;they&lt;/em&gt; say to you? This might include similar things to the above, or other points specifically related to the situation or to your qualities, such as:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;‘Maybe this is not your strong point but you’ve got other more important qualities, like being a good friend’&lt;/em&gt; OR &lt;em&gt;‘You made a mistake, that’s all. We all do it from time to time.’&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;3. Ask yourself if your self critical assessment is accurate or is it exaggerated? - If your self critical statement includes the words &lt;em&gt;‘&lt;/em&gt;never’ or &lt;em&gt;‘&lt;/em&gt;always’ you may be able to soften it by recognising that sometimes you make the mistake or act in the way you feel bad about, but on other occasions you do act in the positive way that you would like.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;4. Often people remember mistakes and failures but not successes, so ask yourself if there any similar occasions when you have acted positively – Acknowledge that on this occasion you perhaps didn’t act as you would have liked, but remind yourself that on other occasions you have done so, to put the situation into context.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;5. Even if your self critical thought is true, ask yourself how much it really matters? Is it a matter of life and death or just something that in an ideal world you might have done differently?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;6. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. No one is perfect.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;This checklist is taken from my low cost eBook on dealing with Low Self Esteem and Negative Self Criticism. To find out more about the eBook, visit the link below:&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/low-self-esteem.html"&gt;Low Self Esteem &amp;amp; Negative Self Criticism eBook&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="fear-intimacy" name="fear-intimacy"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-4846550468064028584?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/4846550468064028584/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=4846550468064028584' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4846550468064028584'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/4846550468064028584'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/04/self-criticism.html' title='Self Criticism'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-5826599170130773610</id><published>2009-03-31T15:27:00.005+01:00</published><updated>2009-03-31T15:38:30.289+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Fear of Intimacy</title><content type='html'>&lt;p&gt;Fear of intimacy can be a problem in relationships and may arise for a number of different reasons.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Below is a link to an article about 3 different ways in which fear of intimacy in a relationship can manifest itself:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.life-coach-tips.co.uk/relationships28.html"&gt;Fear of Intimacy&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;/em&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/em&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a id="low-self-esteem" name="low-self-esteem"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-5826599170130773610?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/5826599170130773610/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=5826599170130773610' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5826599170130773610'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5826599170130773610'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/03/fear-of-intimacy.html' title='Fear of Intimacy'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-6495589726018694934</id><published>2009-03-29T17:07:00.008+01:00</published><updated>2009-05-29T19:14:38.774+01:00</updated><title type='text'>Low Self Esteem</title><content type='html'>Low self esteem is an issue which can impact greatly on your happiness and your ability to achieve what you want in life and relationships.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I have recently written an ebook as part of my series of &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/books.html"&gt;life coaching books&lt;/a&gt;, which describes techniques you can try out to help to improve your self esteem and boost your confidence and self image if this is an issue which affects you.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To find out more please click on the link below:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/low-self-esteem.html"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Low Self Esteem - Guide&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div align="center"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching visit: &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;Life Coaching&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/em&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;a id="nlp-training-tools" name="nlp-training-tools"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-6495589726018694934?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/6495589726018694934/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=6495589726018694934' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6495589726018694934'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/6495589726018694934'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/03/low-self-esteem.html' title='Low Self Esteem'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-5041570168746289055</id><published>2009-03-06T12:33:00.010Z</published><updated>2009-03-06T13:09:55.031Z</updated><title type='text'>Neuro Linguistic Programming Training Tools</title><content type='html'>I quite often get asked questions about neuro linguistic programming training tools by people visiting my &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/"&gt;life coaching website&lt;/a&gt;. I don't provide neuro linguistic programming training tools via my own website, although I do give an introduction to nlp on my website - Visit &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/nlp.html"&gt;What is NLP&lt;/a&gt; to read that.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;However there are a number of specialist nlp websites which offer free information on neuro linguistic programming tools or techniques. For example, on doing a quick search for free neuro linguistic programming training tools, I found &lt;a href="http://www.nlpconnections.com/" target="_blank"&gt;www.nlpconnections.com&lt;/a&gt; which offers a forum for anyone interested in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and some free information or articles about various aspects of neuro linguistic programming such as:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;anchoring&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;metaprograms&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;presuppositions&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;rapport&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;modelling&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;I haven't had the opportunity yet to look at this NLP website in detail, so I can't specifically recommend or endorse any advice or information on it, but at first sight it looks like it could be an interesting source for nlp tools, information and ideas. If anyone has any comments on it, feel free to post a comment on this blog. If you would like to read my introductory article on neuro linguistic programming, please visit the link below:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/nlp.html"&gt;What is NLP?&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p align="center"&gt;&lt;em&gt;Blog Post Written by &lt;a href="http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/lifecoachdavid.html"&gt;Life Coach David&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For Information about David's Telephone Coaching Sessions &amp;amp; Fees Call 0117 904 2908&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;a id="life-coaching-training" name="life-coaching-training"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/252989339414779206-5041570168746289055?l=www.davidbonham-carter.com%2Fblogger.html'/&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</content><link rel='replies' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/5041570168746289055/comments/default' title='Post Comments'/><link rel='replies' type='text/html' href='https://www.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=252989339414779206&amp;postID=5041570168746289055' title='0 Comments'/><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5041570168746289055'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/252989339414779206/posts/default/5041570168746289055'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://www.davidbonham-carter.com/2009/03/neuro-linguistic-programming-training.html' title='Neuro Linguistic Programming Training Tools'/><author><name>Life Coach David</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/15775379809617480810</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='15641372751959776786'/></author><thr:total xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0'>0</thr:total></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-252989339414779206.post-3341875255738838116</id><published>2009-03-06T09:22:00.007Z</published><updated>2009-03-06T11:58:11.877Z</updated><title type='text'>Life Coaching Training</title><content type='html'>&lt;p&gt;Life coaching training courses are very much the in-thing these days and there are a multiplicity of coach training providers springing up around the UK and elsewhere, many of them making out that to become a life coach is a simple and potentially extremely lucrative process. Most successful life coaches might tell you something different - that to become a life coach, particularly if you want to set up your own life coaching business, is usually something which requires dedication, research and the ability to overcome setbacks along the way.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you are thinking of training to be a life coach then here are 3 issues you should consider before you sign up to a particular course (this is not an exhaustive list, just some initial suggestions):&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;How much experience relevant to life coaching do you have, e.g. from counselling or life coaching techniques learned in another profession? Consider to what extent the life coaching training course on offer meets the gaps in your experience. If it just goes over skills and life coaching skills that you already have, then you may want to look at other courses. Identify where your knowledge and life coaching skills gaps fall short and ensure that the particular life coach training course you decide on can meet these gaps.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;A life coaching training course may just look at the skills you need to work with individuals to achieve change or deal with other problems suitable for coaching. But what about the business aspects of what you are planning to do if you want to set up your own life coaching business? Consider to what extent the life coach training course on offer gives you helpful information or ideas for setting up a life coaching business.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;li&gt;How much do different life coaching training courses cost and what do they offer which justifies higher prices? Try to evaluate which coaching training courses offer good value for money in terms of the help that they will give you towards your aim of becoming a life coach and the correlated investment you are being asked to make. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;For those who are interested in receiving free tips on different aspects of becoming a life coach, I offer a free email newsletter. 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